7 Everyday Phrases That Secretly Manipulate Your Mind—Are You Falling for Them?
3. “I’m not blaming you, but…”
Pay close attention to what follows that “but,” because nine times out of ten, it’s a sneaky blame bomb.
It’s like wrapping an insult in a velvet glove—the opening line tries to disarm you by saying it’s not your fault, yet the rest of the sentence heaps responsibility on your shoulders.
After all, if they’re “not blaming you,” how can you argue against them?
I recall a time when a client shared how her partner always opened tough conversations with this phrase.
