8 Common Phrases That Secretly Reveal Poor Social Skills—Do You Use Them?
2) “That’s just how I am.”
I remember a friend of mine who used to say this all the time. We’d be in the middle of a discussion and if he said something offensive or out of line, he’d just shrug and say, “That’s just how I am.”
It was frustrating, to say the least.
This phrase is a red flag for one simple reason: it shows resistance to growth and change. It’s almost like a defense mechanism, shielding the speaker from any criticism or feedback.
The first time my friend used this phrase, I let it slide. But after a while, it became clear that he was using it as an excuse to avoid taking responsibility for his actions or changing his behavior.
