8 Innocuous Phrases Hiding a Patronizing Punch
7) “It’s up to you”
On the surface, this seems like a way of giving you control or respecting your decision. But, in certain contexts, “it’s up to you” can be a passive-aggressive way of saying, “I don’t agree with you, but I’m not going to argue about it.”
It can suggest that the person doesn’t want to take responsibility for the decision or doesn’t care about the outcome.
So while it might feel empowering at first, “it’s up to you” can actually be a pretty dismissive phrase. Be wary of the context and tone when this phrase is used.
