Unlock the Secret Tactics Emotionally Intelligent People Use to Set Boundaries—Without a Trace of Guilt
4. They reframe guilt as a signal, not a verdict
Guilt tends to creep in the moment we’ve asserted ourselves.
Maybe we see the disappointment on someone’s face, or they say something that triggers our “I’m not a good person” alarm.
But here’s the truth: guilt can be a signal that you’re stepping out of your comfort zone, not necessarily that you’re doing something wrong.
If you’re feeling guilty, it might be because you’ve learned to prioritize everyone else’s comfort over your own.
Recognizing that it’s an old pattern (rather than a moral failing) allows you to acknowledge the feeling without letting it sabotage your boundary.
