“Unlocking Loneliness: 4 Surprising Behaviors You Didn’t Know Were Sabotaging Your Friendships”
But for years, I believed something completely different about why friendships did or didn’t happen. In the next section, I’ll share what I used to think—and why I see it differently now.
Why I used to believe friendship just “happens naturally”
For a long time, I believed that close friendships were supposed to happen effortlessly. If you clicked with someone, the bond would just grow on its own—no overthinking, no extra effort.
So when my friendships stayed shallow or faded over time, I assumed it was just bad chemistry. Maybe I hadn’t met the right people. Maybe deep connections just weren’t in the cards for me.
