“Unlocking the Secrets of Selflessness: How ‘Happy to Help’ Challenges the True Cost of Being a People Pleaser”
[But] when I look back at my life, through adolescence and career and mothering and living, the improbable goals I set for myself were not ones I dreamed up. They were achievements I was told I should want…. And if you’re like me, having revealed even the tiniest inclination toward being dependable and good at getting things done, you can end up feeling like the power lines on the side of the road, always just there making things happen, so reliably that people quickly stop processing their presence. Or never really notice them in the first place.
