Unveiling Desire and Deprivation: Inside Melissa Febos’ Provocative Year Without Sex
“My past partners were not responsible [for how my past relationships played out]. It was my dependence upon managing them, upon the belief that I must. For the addict, a single day is the only unit of freedom. Before my celibate period, I had not gone a day in twenty years without entertaining the ways I did or should or would or could appeal to other people and conform to their desires. My attempt to replace dependence with independence and interdependence… was the radical basis of all feminisms. It was the basis of all freedoms.”
