The Surprising Truth About Failure That Took Me Years to Accept—And How It Changed Everything
Now I teach clients to practice direct but kind refusals.
The resistance is always the same: “But what if they get upset?” My response: “What if they do, and you handle it anyway?”
How I learned to track what actually matters
For years, I measured progress by how I felt.
If I finished a session and felt energized, I decided it went well. If I felt drained or uncertain, I assumed I’d failed.
Feelings are terrible metrics.
Some of my best clinical work happened on days when I felt like I was fumbling through. Some of my least effective sessions felt smooth in the moment but didn’t create lasting change.
