The Surprising Truth About Failure That Took Me Years to Accept—and How It Changed Everything
What changes when you stop keeping score
Early in my marriage, I kept a mental tally.
I did the dishes, so he should do the laundry. I initiated plans, so he should initiate next time. I stayed calm during an argument, so he owed me an apology.
This scorekeeping made me resentful and exhausting to be around.
What shifted things was learning to make clear requests instead of waiting for him to guess what I needed.
“I’d appreciate it if you could handle dinner tonight” is so much more effective than silently fuming when he doesn’t.
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