Unraveling Bloodlines: How "Relative Strangers" Redefines Family and Belonging
These messages are so deeply engrained we can’t help but feel shame when we break the implicit pact we make with our adoptive parents not to look further than their love for our sense of belonging. Similarly, we feel shame when we reveal secrets that overturn someone else’s life. Revealing our existence to a half sibling is saying the quiet part out loud, i.e. that our shared mother or father was unfaithful and/or had a hidden past life. The shame is misplaced on the messenger for revealing such inconvenient truths.
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